You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know
I say this a lot because I think it’s important to remember, and sometimes I forget. It’s also important to remember that people around you don’t know what they don’t know either. When it comes to the little things in life, most everyday issues come down to one thing: miscommunication. That, and assumptions (or, not communicating).
I believe offering information when it’s truly helpful and seeking information when you need it can help fill in missing pieces and really help to smooth miscommunication. This also helps us remember that communication goes two ways, encouraging more action and empathy on and for both sides.
If Things Seem One-Sided
Through my own experiences, I’ve learned over the years that some people don’t offer all the information available to others for a range of reasons – from forgetting to, unfortunately, wanting to set others up to fail. In those cases, we can’t control those around us, but we can make our concerns known. If things don’t improve, change the one thing you can – yourself – and leave the situation.
So In the End, What Do We Do?
We’re humans, we can do a lot of amazing things but reading minds is not one of them. Sometimes it’s hard to take into consideration and determine what we know and how that varies for those around us. That’s not to dismiss the important skills of deduction, research and problem solving, but sometimes they just don’t apply. Sometimes we, and others, just need more information.
Do what you can to get the information you need and be proud of yourself when you recognize that you’ve learned something new. Like one of my favorite Maya Angelou quotes:
Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.
– Maya Angelou